Patricia (Johnston) Hayward
Patricia (Johnston) Hayward, beloved mother, grandmother, aunt, cousin and friend, went home to be with the Lord on Dec. 30, 2017 in the company of devoted family and friends.
Fun-loving, artistic, musical, athletic, witty, courageous, generous — adventurer, avid gardener and great storyteller, Mom began her life in Brooklyn.
Born June 15, 1926 to F. Cliffe Johnston and Grace Johnston, nee Palmer, she was the youngest of five daughters and nurtured in the family sports: fox hunting at age five, sailing on Long Island Sound, playing tennis, and snow skiing and ice skating in Lake Placid. Her family valued education in music, literature, history, the arts and nature. They pursued travel and engaged in service to the church and the community.
Mom’s formal education began at Brooklyn’s Packer Collegiate Institute where “carpool” was via her family’s pony cart. She then attended Manhattan’s The Spence School and Miss Hall’s in Pittsfield, Massachusetts. She graduated from The Shipley School, Class of 1944 followed by Briarcliff College, Class of 1946. Inspired by her interest in medicine and in serving others, Mom went on to become one of Dr. Howard Rusk’s original volunteers at Bellevue Hospital. Dr. Rusk’s groundbreaking program in physical medicine and rehabilitation afforded Mom the opportunity to work with World War II veterans and those impaired by polio and other neuromuscular diseases. Her desire to ease human suffering was lifelong and found expression in her service to Goodwill Industries (Chicago and Buffalo), the United Way, seats on various hospital boards, and as a friend and supporter of Lankenau Hospital.
Mom’s childhood trips to Lake Placid fostered her deep connection to the Adirondacks. In 1958, she chose Camp Gordon, on the shores of Lake Placid, to be our summer home. For nearly 50 years, family and friends, many as annual houseguests, enjoyed hiking and boating, island picnics, dock lunches and cookouts. With Mom at the helm of our 24-foot wooden boat, she taught her children and countless others to waterski and took houseguests on leisurely, narrated boat rides. Evenings were filled with lively conversation, porch dinners, games and roasting marshmallows by the fire. An active member of the Lake Placid community, Mom served on the board of the Shore Owner’s Association and co-chaired The Campaign for the Lake Placid Sinfonietta.
Mom’s deep and abiding faith was central to her life. As a child, she supported missions such as The Door of Hope in Shanghai, China. As an adult involved in the Presbyterian Church, she taught Sunday School, Vacation Bible School, led young adult groups and was active in church outreach programs. She was instrumental in bringing the youth ministries of Young Life to Buffalo and FOCUS (Fellowship of Christians in Universities and Schools) to Philadelphia. Mom was a friend and supporter of The Stony Brook School, Covenant House, and Charles Colson’s Prison Fellowship.
Mom’s joie de vivre was evident throughout her life. At age 8, with a friend at her side, she roller-skated through Tiffany’s 1930’s flagship store at Fifth Avenue and 37th. As a teenager, she held her own as a sportsman in the duck hunting blinds of Currituck Sound. She traveled the world, visiting every continent except Antarctica. Wearing her Austrian Alpine hat decorated with pins from her travels, she delivered orchids and chocolates to those she wished to delight.
Mom was a voracious reader, dedicated letter writer, especially thank you notes, she loved to cook and to entertain. She championed her family, her friends and her community. We are so grateful for her life.
Mom is survived by her three children: Robert Bent Hayward Jr. of Lancaster, Pennsylvania and his wife Barbara Duling, Mary Johnston Hayward of Tucson, Arizona, and Barbara Alden Hayward of Bryn Mawr, Pennsylvania; her seven grandchildren to whom she was devoted: Alden McCollum and Kyley
McCollum of Tucson, Arizona, Joy Hayward Hermann of Wheaton, Illinois and her husband Scott, Andrew Hayward, John Hayward and his wife Heidi Miller, Anne Hayward and James Hayward, all of Lancaster, Pennsylvania; and her two great-grandchildren: Katherine Hayward and Joel Hayward of Lancaster, Pennsylvania; along with numerous extended family and friends.
The family would like to express their deep gratitude to the physicians and staff of Lankenau Hospital for their exceptional care. Contributions in Mom’s memory may be directed to The Stony Brook School, c/o Joshua Crane, 1 Chapman Parkway, Stony Brook, NY 11790 or The Lankenau Medical Center Foundation, Dr. James G. Kitchen Cardiac Fellowship Fund, c/o Carolyn Goldman, 100 East Lancaster Avenue, Wynnewood, PA 19096 or to Covenant House, 31 East Armat Street, Philadelphia, PA 19144.
A service in celebration of Mom’s life will be held at 2 p.m. Saturday, Jan. 27, at The Bryn Mawr Presbyterian Church, Bryn Mawr, Pennsylvania. Interment will be at the Johnston Family cemetery plot at Setauket Presbyterian Church on Long Island at a later date.